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Personal Evolution

We're not fitness fanatics, but we do recognize that a healthy writer is a productive writer. Physical fitness, fiscal fitness, and emotional fitness form the trifecta of what we consider constant objectives in life. We're not gurus-on-the-mountain, but we're happy to share our discoveries (and mistakes) along the way!

The Muse and The Monster

October 20, 2017 By Frank Hurt Leave a Comment

For me, being a writer is an ongoing conflict.  I have thankfully never suffered from a shortage of story concepts, and I have been blessed with something resembling raw talent for crafting plots and characters. Yet, assembling the various components into something fit for public consumption as a final product is where I struggle most.

If I can give my inspiration a name (“my Muse”), then I can personify that which gets in my way of creative success.  I’ll call that adversary “Resistance.”

My Adored Muse

My Muse–to my mind’s eye–is a shy, even impish figure.  She whispers in my ear most often when I am asleep and dreaming vividly, and I must hurriedly awake and write my dream down before I forget it. She shows me glimpses of magical worlds when I am hiking alone in the Badlands, and so I often stop to scrawl notes.  She is always welcome to visit me, but does not always answer my invitation.  It is therefore my Muse’s choice whether she will grace me with her otherworldly ideas.

I have found that I can encourage my Muse to visit by religiously keeping a “Writing Ideas Journal” so that she sees that I am taking her input seriously.  When I fail to take note of those concepts she shares with me, inevitably she becomes shy and chooses to visit someone else for a while.  But we have a decent relationship, my Muse and I, and we have come to an amiable understanding:  that she will keep feeding me with inspiration, so long as I continue to act upon it.

That Fiend, Resistance

Resistance is not futile
Despite what they might tell you, it is NOT futile!

It is important to recognize that Resistance is not necessarily the opposing force to my Muse.  The monster which is Resistance does not suddenly go away just because I have an exciting story concept.  Very often, in fact, I will jot down a few paragraphs of a story concept, only to find Resistance stepping out of the shadows, wielding a blade with treacherous talent.

Resistance has many weapons in his arsenal:  writer’s block, self-doubt, procrastination, distractions, laziness.  He knows how to employ each weapon with devastating effect. Resistance tantalizes me with that TV show I just have to watch.  He convinces me that I simply do not have time or am too tired to write when I am done with my work shift.  He instructs me that reading an unholy number of books about writing is in effect just as good as doing the actual writing itself.

Resistance is a liar, but his lies are just so damned sexy.

Resistance whispers to me in a reassuring voice, “Don’t stress about your word count. Why do you set deadlines for yourself?  Relax, enjoy life, have a beer and play a video game.  You already work too hard, just take it easy!”

Most days, I have to admit I give in to to these temptations of laziness and distraction.  I am a sucker for taking the quick and easy path.  The fact that “most people take the easy path” does not give me any long-term solace, no matter how soothingly that monster Resistance sings that song.

Overcoming Resistance

It was in reading Stephen Pressfield’s superlative work of nonfiction, aptly named “The War of Art” that I first heard someone give name to Resistance.   Mr. Pressfield’s experience in battling his own demons both internal and external yielded hard-won lessons, which he generously shares in his book.

Mr. Pressfield defines Resistance as “the negative force which keeps you away from writing. It comes in various forms of an instant-gratification ‘high.’ It’s what keeps us from sitting down and facing a blank page.”

He goes on to point out “That which you fear controls you.  That which you fear and face, you will control.”

In “The War of Art”, he advises that a key principle for him was to treat his writing like a profession–not just a hobby.  “A professional seeks order and discipline,” he says.  “A professional demystifies things and focuses on craft and technique. You will never overcome fear; you just have to face fear and do it anyway.”

An amateur does something for fun.  An amateur is chaotic and impatient.  A professional, on the other hand, treats her work like a job.  It is a vocation, not a hobby.  A professional shows up for work everyday and stays on the job, whether she feels like working or not.

Mr. Pressfield additionally offers an axiom, to think of Resistance as a compass–or a “North Star” as he thinks of it.  In other words, the stronger the Resistance to your activity, the more likely it is something you were meant to do.

If you are a creative professional–or wish to become one–I highly recommend you read “The War of Art”.  At the very least, you will be doing yourself a favor by listening to this excellent hour-long interview with Stephen Pressfield:

I am implementing this mindset in my ongoing quest to evolve my writing from hobby into profession.  I look forward to someday returning to this article and perhaps will recognize it as a victorious battle in my own ongoing “War of Art.”

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Winning the Lottery, but at What Price?

October 20, 2017 By Frank Hurt Leave a Comment

I remember distinctly the moment I realized that I possessed the power to win the lottery. All I needed to do was purchase a single ticket, and my accumulated quota of luck would be siphoned off in exchange for an immediate financial windfall.

The Powerball was at record numbers (something like $400 Million), and the headlines were tantalizing: just 48 hours until the winning number would be drawn. Everyone, it seemed, was picking up tickets at the local convenience stores, because “you can’t win if you don’t play.”

I know how crazy it sounds, but I tell you this with full sincerity: I know that if I bought a lottery ticket, I would win the lottery.  But I would win by abusing my good luck for materialistic gains.

Between chapters

At the point in time of the aforementioned jackpot, I was going through something of a transition between chapters in my life. I had reluctantly left the comfortable (but stressful) home-based business I built up over the course of eleven years, and pursued the much less civilized, unpredictable lifestyle of a contractor in the oilfield. My marriage of ten years ended just a few months after that, and I was left with debt exceeding six figures.

Yet, I flourished during that transition period.  The challenges of the new career and the volatile, unpredictable lifestyle forced me to step up my game.

  • I am lucky: I found a talent for the work I was tasked to do with minimal input or oversight, and I was consequently promoted rapidly.  I was lucky, too, in that I found real enjoyment in the work that I did.
  • I am lucky:  I have a wonderful relationship with my family, and I have a circle of treasured friends.
  • I am lucky:  I have had countless close-calls and near-misses working on an active drilling rig, and on the high-traffic roads of the oil patch. I remain unscathed and healthy.
  • I am lucky:  I never believed in the concept of “falling in love” but after my divorce was finalized, I met an amazing coworker who shared my work ethic and life values, and who I indeed fell in love with.

A simple self-assessment tells me that I am already a lottery winner, just by blind virtue of when and where I was born.

My prettier half’s stance

When I discuss this with my RaeLea, she usually responds with a hint of incredulity. I cannot blame her for doing so!  After all, what manner of creature would make such a bold claim of prescience–and then pass it up?

“Who’s to say your luck would be exhausted if you won?”  She asks.

“It’s a hunch.  I don’t know, it just makes sense to me that when we earn karma, it should not be spent in such a way.”

“I am willing to take that chance,” she sometimes tells me.

I half jest: “That is why I am the one who is tasked with managing the luck in this relationship!”

Winning the lottery, but at what cost?
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It’s not as though I don’t appreciate money; I am an unapologetic capitalist, after all.  It’s also not that I didn’t believe that I could put such a windfall to good use, either.  I like to think that I would be sensible with my investments and that I would not allow my new fortune to become a misfortune.  But then again, isn’t that what every lottery winner believes?

Regardless, I will never confirm this admittedly wild thesis I have; I will never prove that this mystical belief I have shared with you today is actually real or simply the machinations of my overactive imagination.  To confirm this would mean purchasing a lottery ticket and I have too much to lose and comparatively little to gain by doing that.

I won’t squander my karma, and I won’t deplete my good luck because I would miss it when it is gone.

What about you?  If you believed that you would win a $400 Million dollar lottery, but that in so doing your karma might be damaged, would you purchase a lottery ticket anyway?

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I Am Too Busy to Achieve My Goals

October 20, 2017 By Frank Hurt Leave a Comment

About a year ago, RaeLea and I met with our boss, who we contract with to provide wellsite geology and mudlogging services on drilling rigs in North Dakota’s oilfield. Kathy had just finished constructing a mammoth new headquarters for her business, and she offered to give us the grand tour before we convened in the conference room.

“Oh, that would be wonderful,” I admitted, “but we know you are very busy.”

Without hesitation, Kathy said, “I’m busy.  You two are busy.  Frank, we’re all busy. Come on, I’ll show you around.”

NCS Building
The Neset Consulting headquarters

Kathy Neset is a businesswoman who, over the course of multiple decades of gritty persistence, built up her own burgeoning empire in a male-dominated industry, with a current market share of something like 40% of all drilling rigs in North Dakota.  She was appointed by the Governor to sit on the North Dakota Board of Higher Education, regularly is featured as a presenter at conferences, manages well over 100 employees and contractors, all while remaining active in several different trade and civic groups.

By my humble reckoning, Kathy is a titan of industry in North Dakota.  And yet, in a nonchalant statement she implied that her level of “busy” was not any different than my own.  That really hit home for me.

If I were to write a note over the years each time I have told someone “I’m too busy” when asked to do something, I would have a whole book’s worth of wordcount (my first novel is, incidentally, something I have been “too busy” to finish writing…for about two decades).

I’m trying to break myself of the habit of using “I’m too busy” or “I don’t have enough time” as an excuse for not accomplishing things which are important to me.  “I am too busy to work on that project today” needs to be an extinct statement.

House of Cards
Kevin Spacey is the hyper-ambitious Frank Underwood, in the brilliantly-written “House of Cards”

After all, for being perpetually “too busy”, I magically find the time to binge-watch “House of Cards” (and consequently force my wife to endure listening to me quote Frank Underwood with my terrible attempt at a South Carolina accent).

So is it truly a lack of time which prevents me from working on the projects which move me closer to achieving my goals?  Or is uttering “I’m too busy” just another way of admitting that I possess poor time management skills?

I am reminded of a quote I mentioned before on this site, and which I remind myself of every day (because it emblazons the header of my Personal Journal):

Our priorities are what we do, not the things we say we do.

I recently listened to an interview with my self-publishing idol, Hugh Howey, in which the interviewer asked him how he was able to write so prolifically, all while working full-time before his writing career became self-sustaining. His answer:

“Basically by giving up video games and some TV shows and not going to the movies as often and things like that, I was spending my leisure time writing.“

Essentially, Hugh Howey refused to allow himself to be “too busy” to work on his life goal of becoming a published author.  That is so simple and yet so profound.

There is so much I want to accomplish in life, and such a limited time span to get it done. I am not going to lean on that tired excuse anymore.  I am NOT too busy to achieve my goals.

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Back When I Was a Murderer

October 20, 2017 By Frank Hurt Leave a Comment

This must have been what it felt like to be God.  To have complete control. To end life on a whim.  I was nine years old when I experienced this power, and I wielded it to dreadful effect.

I don’t think I was evil, even though my actions were certainly cruel.  I was just a thoughtless child. Besides, I am reformed now, and I have made my recompense.  I hope I have done enough to make up for what I did.  [Read more…]

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Small Stories, Big Impact

October 20, 2017 By Frank Hurt Leave a Comment

Storytelling isn’t just about entertaining audiences. Good storytelling connects with readers on an emotional level. This connection between the reader and writer can even compel readers to take action.

The pairing of stories with a call-to-action is a well-established truism in the marketing world. The most effective advertisements and marketing campaigns use storytelling to engage the audience with the ultimate intent being an actionable one:  usually, to make a purchase.

I recently bore witness to the development of a clever example of this sort of effective storytelling in a volunteer-created campaign at our local animal shelter. My sister, Beth, has a huge heart and is passionate about animal welfare.  She volunteers her time at the shelter, and she told me about some of the animals that have been languishing for months in confinement without being adopted.

Evidently, black cats have a markedly lower probability of being adopted (people have a difficult time seeing their expressions). Older cats are almost always more difficult to find new homes for (everyone wants kittens).

Beth told me about one of the cats, “Sweetie” who is an older female that had been at the shelter since May. This cat was visibly depressed and withdrawn, possibly a byproduct of a past abuse and thus distrust of humans.  As a big fan of animals myself, this story broke my heart, and I suggested to Beth that she work to tap into that set of emotions by sharing the backstory of these cats.

It turns out, the animal shelter was coincidentally kicking around trying just such a technique.  (I’m admittedly naive, as I’ve since recognized that this storytelling technique has been used to great effect by other animal shelters, for years).

Being a talented writer and graphic artist, Beth took that seed of an idea and cultivated a set of simple but effective ads.  She used a mix of her trademark wit and personification of the “unwanted pets” to really wrench the hearts of potential adoptees.

Here are a few examples (click them for a larger version):

older cat Sweetie up for adoption

cat Addison adoption poster

cat Berkley adoption poster

golden retriever adoption poster

As I mentioned, some of these animals had been at the shelter for months, with diminishing hopes of finding a loving home.  The reaction to these “personal interest” micro-stories was swift. Within a handful of days of posting the above ads, all of these animals found homes.

It’s no wonder that storytelling is used by marketers of organizations big or small, commercial or nonprofit:  it works!

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